What would you think if you found this in your boyfriend's (girlfriend) hotmail account?

WE have just started dating like 2 weeks ago, Well, i left my msn on and my girlfriend went into my hotmail (dont worry, i let her, the hotmail was already on) and was looking at some of my e-mails, i have saved e-mails in folders such as "good e-mails" " music" e-mails" and so she was looking through one of these files and she saw a whole buch of them, like 25-30 from my ex girlfriend in which she knows, and is quite good friends with. Now these e-mails arent from like a week ago, they're pretty old like from 3-4 months ago, but theres some really deep stuff in them (ex: things wouldnt be the same without u, i cant imagine myself with anyone else...). What would u be thinking if you were my girlfriend? Would u care?, or would u think im still in love with my ex cause im keeping those old e-mails?
What would you think if you found this in your boyfriend's (girlfriend) hotmail account?
I would wonder a few things if I was her.





1) Why does he still have these and did he realize he still had them?


2) If its on purpose I would probably think that you still liked your ex or weren't completely over it and would be upset.


3) If they said some pretty deep things only a few months ago, I would wonder how you could just move on so quickly and if you would be able to do the same with me. I may further be upset simply from the things that were said (especially if any of those are e-mails YOU sent with really deep things YOU said.) I would possibly be somewhat jealous of what you guys had and may not feel so great about the current relationship anymore. I may also have a tendency to start comparing myself more to your ex and become more insecure.





Basically you just need to make sure she isn't really hurt. You can't just assume one way or the other. You need to reassure her that you are completely over your ex and that you like HER now. It may also be a good idea to get rid of them so she see's that this is the case. Actions always speak louder than words.





Good luck!





Oh, and now that I think about it I too have kept some things of sentimental value so she may understand that. If she doesn't care, great. If it hurts her a lot you may want to consider how important those e-mails are to you compared to how important this new girl is to you.





Further don't act like it was something you had meant to hide and just did a bad job of it, let her know that there are no secrets and she will probably trust you even more now. Unlike the responder below I really wouldn't all of a sudden stop letting her see things that I would have let her before because that makes me think you're all of a sudden hiding things. (Not good!)





Finally there may also be the possibility that she says she doesn't care about it at all, and its not a big deal to her when it really DOES hurt her. Try not to judge simply from her words, and try to be sensitive to this. I really don't think this will be some huge thing that will end your relationship or anything.
Reply:yes!Your Gf Could talk about u with Your ex
Reply:Sounds like your still in love with her to me! Us females tend to keep things that have sentimental value no matter what it is, so to see you holding on to things like that hurts your girlfriend I'm sure. Prove your really committed and let the past go!!
Reply:Well I guess I may at first think " Why do u still have these emails if they mean nothing to u" but on the other hand if u trusted me enought u go on your hotmail u really have nothing to hide.





I guess in keeping them can mean ur a guy who likes sweet and nice things said to u even thought ur not with any of these girls anymore, I mean these girls did mean something to u once. And as long as it's in the past I guess it's ok as long as it stays in the past alone with the ex girlfriends.=-)





Also lets about about (her, ur now girlfriend)


going throught ur emails was something she really shouldn't have done, I mean yes Im sure u and she want trust and loyalty but she really shouldn't have been going throught ur things.. Because thats what happens when u go looking for something means a person may have a few douts, she may have wanted to find something( she did) now she's upset





My mom always have said if u go looking for trouble and u find it and it;s something u can't handle then u shouldn't have gone looking for it in the 1st place.





I hope u and she work it out no since of ending a relationship over the past.. And u may want to lock up things that u hold and keep that is dear to u, u have a right to that even if it may hurt her she has to realize that u had a past and that somethings in that past was dear to u and u like to hold on to it.





And she needs to stop snooping into business thats not hers





Ur her man now and she needs to deal with that
Reply:i would ask u y the hell r u keeping. u broke up with her its over, and u should delete them and next time shes around go through ur emails and show her u deleted them.





luck..
Reply:I'd probably be a little jealous, just because I get jealous for no apparent reason and want to be certain that my guy is mine and nobody elses. But I'd be really understanding about it, I personally save some of those e-mails too just because they're memories that I don't want to forget even if I have moved on. If they're from before you two even started dating or anything, I wouldn't think it's a big deal really... It's not like you were cheating on her or anything, don't sweat it. If she seems upset, talk to her about it. Explain why you want to keep them ; if you talk to her, I'm sure she'll understand if she doesn't already. Good luck =]